April 9, 2014
I believe everyone is put in your life for a reason. When Christian was in Middle school she took a class taught by Jane Henegar. I cannot remember the name of the class. What I do remember, were Mrs. Henegar’s comments at grade time. I was so happy that somebody finally “got” my daughter! I remember emailing her a Thank You. But, if I recall we did not truly meet for a very long time. In all honesty I do not remember our first meeting. I do remember sitting on a bench with her outside the science building at GPS and just talking. I felt like I was talking to a lifelong friend. With Jane, there is always honesty and everything is “REAL.” That day after talking with Jane on the bench, I KNEW why my daughter, Christian, was comfortable with her...Christian was quiet, reserved and did not miss anything. She could be guarded, but once she loved, she loved with her whole person. She could joke and laugh...she was just really fun...I love her and I miss her! Jane was a constant part of Christian’s life during her years at GPS, and that did not change when Christian was diagnosed with leukemia. I can remember days (when I knew she was not feeling good), when I ask, what do you really have to do today, Christian’s response, “I have to meet with Mrs. Henegar.” As Christian got sicker, Jane always respected our privacy, but somehow I knew she was always there if needed. She and the Christian Life ladies at GPS gave us our first “Jesus Calling” devotional book, she brought meals and she was always praying. When Christian died, I did not hesitate calling Jane and asking her to deliver part of Christian’s Eulogy. I can literally remember where I was standing that Saturday, May 26, 2012 in PICU when I talked to her. The day Christian died, some of her closest friends were driving back from the senior trip Christian and Corbin Cullum planned together....late that afternoon Chris and I gathered together with the girls and their parents...Jane Henegar was there, Randy Tucker, the GPS Headmaster, and his wife, Terri were there and Jeff Gaither, Christian’s Cross Country Coach. At some time that afternoon, Jane sent me this email...yesterday, I was looking through email and I saw this and some others and sat at my desk cried. I hope everyone has beared with me and made it to the true grit of this reflection....From Jane Henegar at around 4 p.m. Saturday, May 26, 2012:
With tears I read what I have been reading the last few weeks, fearing this day and knowing if it comes, God has his reasons.
Listen to these beautiful words from "Pilgrim"s Progress" -- about two people named Christian and Hopeful: I love you so much -- I will call tonight and hope not to bother you -- Your lifelong friend, Jane
From “Pilgrams Progress”
. “[T]hey had such warm and joyful thoughts about having their own dwelling there with such a company forever and ever. Oh, what tongue or pen can express their glorious joy. Christian and Hopeful inquire what they will do in Heaven (p. 207). The pilgrims obtain this response from the angels:
o “You must receive the comfort of all your toil and have joy for all your sorrows. You must reap what you’ve sown, even the fruit of all your prayers, tears, and sufferings for the King while you were in the Way. In this place you must wear crowns of gold and enjoy the perpetual sight and vision of the Holy One . . . . your eyes shall be delighted with seeing Him, and your ears with hearing the voice of the Mighty One. There you’ll enjoy again your friends who have gone there before you. And there you’ll receive with joy everyone who follows after you into the holy place. Also, there you’ll be clothed with glory and majesty, and put into a carriage that is fit to ride out in with the King of Glory” (p. 207).